"B. Scott - Mother Muffin Snubbed by the BET Awards"

"Look, we all know its a political world and things work a certain way, but in entertainment you would think that one could fully express themselves without any barriers."

So I must do this for the record. For the community. For all Black LGBT people who are constantly silenced by the white community and  black community. B Scott, a famous YouTube sensation that has expanded his career into the likes of E Entertainment, Bravo, The Tyra Banks Show, Mariah Carey, Jamie Fox & Sirius Radio, and Ebony Magazine; is definitely one of LGBT's finest.

The BET Awards snubbed B. Scott, telling him to switch out of his heels during the BET pre- show. Now first of all you know B. Scott looked fabulous, hair laid and face BEAT FOR THE HEAVENS, GALAXIES, and GODS.It saddens me because B.Scott didn't even look like himself. As a true love muffin  I'm sure other love muffins feel me, B. Scott DID NOT LOOK HAPPY. He didn't look like himself. He seemed distraught, as if he was trying to hold it in and I know it burned his spirit on the inside. I honestly thought BET supported him FULLY. 
So lets think critically about this. Why was he snubbed BET? Is it because he challenges what the black community constantly neglects? Is it because he is fabulous and looks better than have of the females? Is it because HE IS LIVING IN HIS TRUTH!? Y'all got the game twisted. How are you going to hire someone and then change them!? It's ENTERTAINMENT, not corporate America.


We're you afraid that B. Scott would send the wrong message to viewers? Y'all need to check his plate boo! His viewers are DIVERSE! If anything he would've helped your brand. He would have helped strengthen your BRAND! Your trying to do better BET and I see it, but this was not right. It's disrespectful. You allow people to have their breast hang out and WEAR NO CLOTHING then you want to ask him to tune it down? Don't be hypocritical! Don't even go there! 


People on stage twerking and acting a fool. It reminds me of church or something. I completely understand the predicament that B. Scott was in. I've been in numerous situations where someone asked me to tone it down, and I couldn't say much nor did I have anyone to help me fight. 


So B. Scott, honey you have a community of people like ourselves, black feminine gay men, black women, and an array of others who KNOW what happened to you and will blast BET for it.

I personally commend you for handling it like a trooper. Been a fan if you since I was 16 years old!!! You are truly a blessing to the world. So please know that this situation with BET was a door that you opened. That means that you are doing what your supposed to do! So we see it and all that you've accomplished! Keep going girl! This is your purpose lovely, I know you know that the spirit is always with you and is using you to communicate some issues that society neglects all the time.

And for ya'll haters out there who are stating that B. Scott is being ungrateful, please have several seats and get it together real quick. He is very humble and knows where he came from. How would you feel if you went somewhere to work and they asked you to turn off who you are? They told you your tie was a bit much for them or you need to change your outfit? Wouldn't you feel disrespected and unappreciated? When someone asks you to do a job for them, they obviously see something in you. 

Instead of muffling people, they need to be focused on expression. You can have everything else on your network, EVERYTHING else yet you can't let the LGBT be themselves. That's the issue, we always encourage LGBT people in our community to tone it down and muffle it. PEOPLE ALREADY KNOW! They know the B. Scott brand! 

My heart is in support of the one and only  B. Scott!

Please share your comments and thoughts. Hugs, wishes, and kisses! 

Pull Up to the Bumper Baby: Eye Contact

"Now in the parking lot garage,
You'll find the proper place,
Just follow all the written rules,
You'll fit into the space." Grace Jones/Nightclubbing/Pull up to the Bumper - 1981

Hola Chicas! So we are gonna sit down and discuss the tea of eye contact while flirting. If you didn't know now you know! Someone told me "I'm not gonna talk or flirt with you if your not looking at me." So of course peeps, you need to LOOK at whoever is talking a good game to you.

You could be looking into the eyes of your future husband and baby's father or future wife/baby's mother! Do you want to miss out on that? *cues crickets* - I didn't think so.


Eye contact is essential to flirting because the eyes say alot about a person. It allows you to read or to be read, if you know what I mean. You can gain a better sense of someone's energy towards you if you study there eyes. You can see if they want your time or not, its completely silent acknowledgement. Non-Verbal communication ignites the real communication.

It can get tricky if someone who is attractive that you have been staring at looks at you one time, simply because they caught you staring.
Lets say you walk into a room, a social gathering per say and you see a dime piece (male or female) giving you that eye! It happens all the time! You give them that eye back, thats you silently saying "kick your game." Unfortunately, some people (like myself) look else where or at the ground and are completely oblivious to the no verbal communication people of interest send us. 

So we have to use our eyes and learn how to read them if we want to master this world of flirting. There are some people who just naturally do it all the time. They walk into a room and just oozzeeee flirtation! And then some of us, like me yes I admit, are completely whack at it! So

My friend once told me - " you are going to miss out on your Hubbie because you never look at people!!!" And I don't want that!

So there you go sugar plums! Eye contact is one of the MAIN pieces of flirtation! So use it!!! 

"I Don't Care if Your Gay, Just Don't Flaunt It!"

Living life as a gay male, I often get frustrated by the logic of some people. Some people embrace the "feminine" qualities within gay men and some despise it.

It really makes me want to run face first into a wall sometimes when I hear people say "it's ok that your gay but, why do you have to throw it in my face? Why do you have to flaunt it? Why can't you be gay but still act like a man?" 

Don't you understand that we are people? It's all expression. Gender expression, sexual expression, physical expression. Heterosexuals get to express themselves and their qualities/characteristics. So why can't we do the same? 

I don't view homosexuality as a lifestyle, it's a path of experience in my eyes. We all have different experiences that bring us challenges. 

The gender binary is so LOCKED! Meaning that "men are supposed to do this, and women are supposed to do that!" But where do we, as LGBT people, fall in the spectrum? 

Those comments, questions and judgements are not only appalling but very insensitive.  Many people have this perception that all gay men are feminine and act the same. So not true! There are masculine gay men, feminine gay men, and some who have a mixture of masc/fem qualities (Them Butch Queens yassssss!!)

And lets not other the hatred within in the gay community. As men, we thrive off of being as straight as possible. "Oh I'm straight acting! I'm a top! I'm this I'm that! I'm a real man! Come taste this machoness!" But it's not a debate about who is a real man, it's about being true to who you are! 

That is why I stand tall as a proud feminine gay male. I was taught that there was something wrong with me. But  I had to fight and continue to do so everyday to prove that I am who i am and that's ok. 

At the same token, I have had to understand that by me living my life, I am taking a risk yet opening the door for other LGBT people all over the world. In a patriarchal world where heterosexual men thrive, our lives are a political stance against the norm. So we have to stay strong and continue to open doors for one another because after racism, homophobia is another festering sickness  of the world. 

So if you are homosexual, be you and stay true to you! I'm trying to do the same! Furthering my understanding of who I am and were I got in this BIG world! Be safe, be wise, be careful. 

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