Where Are You?

 

"Peek-a-boo"

Hola readers! Wanted to do something, a little check in of sorts. A break from the album reviews I've been serving. :) 

Have you ever been so busy and wrapped up in life that you feel like it's all a blue? You feel like it's passing you by yet you can't stop it. 

This morning I literally googled "how to stay calm" and found a plethora of leads that aid with calmness. 

One thing I literally did was look at my bedroom wall and repeat to myself "I am Calm, I am Happy, I am Focused, I will Succeed" 

Sometimes you have to literally speak to YOURSELF to get it together. I said it about 3 times repeatedly and felt a little better. 

I often have to remember WHERE I AM. And ask myself... Are you enjoying the ride? Did you complete that goal? If not, why don't you do it? 

So for those anxious nerve wrecked bee's out there, it's all gonna fall together. We don't know how, I don't know how, but sit tight and do what you can. 

Hugs, wishes, and kisses.  

Pull Up to the Bumper Baby: Eye Contact

"Now in the parking lot garage,
You'll find the proper place,
Just follow all the written rules,
You'll fit into the space." Grace Jones/Nightclubbing/Pull up to the Bumper - 1981

Hola Chicas! So we are gonna sit down and discuss the tea of eye contact while flirting. If you didn't know now you know! Someone told me "I'm not gonna talk or flirt with you if your not looking at me." So of course peeps, you need to LOOK at whoever is talking a good game to you.

You could be looking into the eyes of your future husband and baby's father or future wife/baby's mother! Do you want to miss out on that? *cues crickets* - I didn't think so.


Eye contact is essential to flirting because the eyes say alot about a person. It allows you to read or to be read, if you know what I mean. You can gain a better sense of someone's energy towards you if you study there eyes. You can see if they want your time or not, its completely silent acknowledgement. Non-Verbal communication ignites the real communication.

It can get tricky if someone who is attractive that you have been staring at looks at you one time, simply because they caught you staring.
Lets say you walk into a room, a social gathering per say and you see a dime piece (male or female) giving you that eye! It happens all the time! You give them that eye back, thats you silently saying "kick your game." Unfortunately, some people (like myself) look else where or at the ground and are completely oblivious to the no verbal communication people of interest send us. 

So we have to use our eyes and learn how to read them if we want to master this world of flirting. There are some people who just naturally do it all the time. They walk into a room and just oozzeeee flirtation! And then some of us, like me yes I admit, are completely whack at it! So

My friend once told me - " you are going to miss out on your Hubbie because you never look at people!!!" And I don't want that!

So there you go sugar plums! Eye contact is one of the MAIN pieces of flirtation! So use it!!! 

How to Be Forward Thinking and Positive :)

Hello World!

I've been gone for a minute but I'm back with the "JUMPOFF!" - (Lil' Kim voice!)

How are you lovely people doing? If you've been reading my blog, THANK YOU! I don't care who reads it, I just want to get my thoughts out! To help myself and also help others. :)


Today and the last few days I have been doing a great job with remaining calm. I often over think things, they say thats the Aquarius in me. But regardless of your zodiac sign there are many people who just WORRY FOR NO REASON!

These days the world moves so fast and when you are grinding, you just want things to work smoothly to your advantage. But sometimes the world simply does not work that way. You will have days, months, and even years in which you feel like times are just hard. You feel like nothing is working in your favor and as if your time just isn't here yet.


But I've come to realize that I cannot see the future. All I have with me is my gut, my sixth sense, the spirit, that INTUITION that guides me and all of my decisions. You also have the same thing. Everyone has it but some of us don't know how to tap into it.

A few months ago a wise woman taught me to simply shut everything, every person, and situation off to listen to my thoughts. It's tough because my mind is constantly running rampant. " I gotta do this, I gotta pay this bill, I have to meet this person, I have to eat this, I have to turn in this assignment, I have to be at work at this time, I have to sleep at this time, I gotta wash and blah blah blah!" LOL! And that is perfectly normal. But she told me the reason why we feel like we can't think is because we always have loud music bumping in our ears (I'm a music lover) or are always around too many people in public/private settings. Sometimes you have to get some alone time in to truly listen to your inner voice.

We have to learn to simply calm our nerves and be forward thinking. By that I mean constantly stay in the present while looking ahead. SO focus on what you have to accomplish NOW so you can GET TO THE NEXT STEP. A good friend of mines taught me to simply "RESPECT THE PROCESS".


You cannot have what you want now, nothing happens overnight, and if it does it most likely will FALL at some point because there was no process behind it. It's like cooking a meal, every dish takes some amount of time to prepare. Don't you want your food served up correctly? If so, then get in the kitchen, grab the NECESSARY INGREDIENTS, your cooking utensils, and prepare your dish. Apply that metaphor to whatever situation you are dealing with in your life.

I'm still learning myself!

So be FORWARD THINKING AND POSITIVE! It will all work out! :)


Share your thoughts! xoxoxoxoxoxo.