Pull Up to the Bumper Baby : Small Talk

"Driving down those city streets,
Waiting to get down, 
Won't you get your big machine,     
Somewhere in this town?
Pull up to my bumper baby, 
In your long black limosine, 
Pull up to my bumper baby, 
And drive it in between."  - Grace Jones, Pull Up to the Bumper, Nightclubbing (1981)

What ya'll know about that Grace Jones? She is FIERCE!!!! 


Ladies and Gents.....if you need some tips on your game let me school you! Can I give it a shot? Why Not?

First and foremost, I have no game!!! My player card has never been activated and that's fine! Lol but I'll share some tips that I've learned and am mastering, also friends have taught me these things that have worked!  

So you want to get you a boo? A future husband / wife? A jump off? Ok I'll stop LOL! Back to the game of flirting. 

Ladies:
Truth be told, ladies actually hold the power. Many think that men pursue just to pursue but that's not really the case. A lady must give the man the GO in order for him to approach her. Now of course this doesn't always happen because there are some thirsty thirst bucket men out there! But, a woman usually gives the guy the green light. She does so by:

1. Eye contact with the admirer

2. Smiling

3. Playing with her hair while he stares

4. Fixing clothing

5. Applying make up/cosmetics as the admirer gawks at her

6. laughs

7. Catch your admirer watching you by briefly looking at him/her and looking away as if you didn't notice him/her. (If your with your girls or boys, act as if you are fully invested in your convo with them all the while your utilizing their energy to make your admirer want you - wqant you to give them your attention even more!)

8. Being Coy - The art of being clever, shy and lady like. Here is the technical definition.

adjective \ˈkȯi\  

1. a : shrinking from contact or familiarity <'tis but a kiss I beg, Why art thou coy? — William Shakespeare>

    b : marked by cute, coquettish, or artful playfulness <usingcoy tricks to attract attention>

     2

 .  showing reluctance to make a definite commitment <a coyresponse>

I'm not gonna give tips to the fellas of yet. That'll come soon. Just know that SMALL TALK HEPS YOU TOO!!! SO PURSUE WHOMEVER YOU LIKE WITH SMALL TALK! 

Although I'm still learning how to get my game on I found that SMALL TALK really helps! If someone is interested in you, they usually try to get you to engage with some small talk.

Small Talk = Pointless conversation that enables your admirer or the one you are admiring open the door for further communication! That is the goal! Small talk is completely irrelevant and does not have to make sense at all. You can be like "Wow, what did you think about the Spurs VS. Miami Heat Game? Why is the sky blue? etc." The whole point is to get the other person to engage you in conversation. Small talk can then morph into something great. The both of you talk about the weather in Kansas and then discover that you both are big fans of Scandal! Then that sparks more conversation and you'll go with with somebodies phone number! YASSSSS!

Now if you are on the receptive end of things, meaning someone is pursuing you - engage them as they small talk you ONLY IF YOU ARE INTERESTED! See if your a ncie person like myself, you will give them settle ques that you aren't interested like texting on your phone, looking at someone else, or just simply telling them nicely, I AM NOT INTERESTED or make up some excuse like "Oh, I'm currently in a relationship and I'm not taking any applications or looking for interviewees."


Small Talk also allows the both of you to feel comfortable with one another. You know how it is when you first meet someone! Isn't it awkward? You may act all shy and weird the first few minutes. But Small talk diffuses that nervous energy because you gain familiarity with the other person. :)


So there you have it. Small talk is what we all do when we flirt rather you are the pursuer or the one being pursued. It is one  of the many keys for communication! Who knows, you may meet your future baby's father or mother! And I'm just as lost as you all are in the game of flirting but hey, we gotta learn somewhere right?


More of these flirty tips are coming!

Smooches!

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