Love & College Part 1

"What to do to make some sense of this? What to do to make the feelings fit?" - (Tina Turner, Two People - Private Dancer 1984)

Shout out to love & Basketball! All though that has little to do with this post. 

Are you a current college student and your having all of these gnawing thoughts about love? If so, we are in the same boat. Hear my rant! 

I didn't realize how lucky people are to have a significant other that they are actually are in love with until I came to college. The world can be such a harsh and cold place, but its our relationships with our loved ones (Friends, Family, and BooThangs) that make Mother Earth much more bearable. 

Personally, I've never been in love before and have always wondered how it feels. I often live vicariously through my friends and family members experiences, hoping that someday I find a guy that will treat me RIGHT!!! *Twirls*! I'm talkin....my skin glowing because he loves me, getting a big Kool-Aid smile every time a thought of him enters my love eatened Brain! Eyes glistening when he walks through the door! Like "Baby what's up?!" Yassss! Lol! 

(That does not mean I love their significant others! Lets make that clear! That means that I learn from their experience, I question them about their feelings and emotions.)

You know how a significant other, boy or gal, can make you feel fabulous, like a million dollars. Like you just blew some stacks on a few bottles at the club lol! Just JK! 

Many wonder why I'm single and I honestly don't know. I have goals, I'm in college, and I want the white pickett dream. Some say I'm picky, but I disagree. I have standards. I feel like these days many people don't. 

(white Pickett dream - Big house, husband, maybe children, beautiful yard, plants, white pickett fence that surrounds our home.....basically the cheesy American Dream. Solange made a song about it, go listen!) 

I've tried to be open to it coming. Many say that love just happens, you can't force it, you just have to wait (shout out to the Supremes - Diana Ross You Can't Hurry Love). 

So that's where I am with it. I always wonder, "dang Im in my 20's and haven't had a relationship yet. Am I behind? Did I miss something?" I'm telling y'all! 

So with that being said, Love & College are two things that are heavy in ones life. I honestly don't see how people can have relationships that LAST and not get distracted in school. Or not want to e single! 

I'm still defining what LOVE means to me. Still doing some SELF WORK to be ready for my partner. Sometimes I feel bad for wanting a committed a relationship in college because NO ONE is focused on that lol! AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FO DAT! Everyone's single and usually focused on smashing and passing. Which is ok for some. 

Then you have some people who do really want to be with someone and somehow figure out how to make that happen while attending college. 

So there you have it! What are your thoughts on Love & College? Share share share! :) 

I will be posting more thoughts on this topic, so expect a part 2!